Friday, November 21, 2008

My Letter to the Design Team

Christmas Institute - Southern California
Design Team Members
Counselor and Staff

Francis Thomas B. Serrano
Former Design Team Member

October 29, 2008

Dear Leadership Team,

As a former Design Team member as well as a Counselor and Staff member. I am compelled to speak on the latest issues that have been going around. And even though I am eight thousand miles away, I am still affected by the things that are happening with the leaderships of Christmas Institute. For one I have invested 15 years into Christmas Institute and have worked very hard like many of you to make CI what it is today. Second, my nephew and niece will be attending CI this year so as a parent I have the right and the responsibility to make sure that the people teaching my nephew and niece are consistent to the values and principles that my family has set. And lastly, it is because I still care deeply for all of you and I know how hard you have worked and things such as these although important should not diminish your contribution and sacrifices you have all made for CI and for Jesus Christ. But like many of you I am moved to say something.

For past few years since when I was still a design team member I was involved with the day to day operations of Christmas Institute, there was not an issue or problem that I ran away from. I was always ready to answer the call of the Lord as well as my fellow design team members. There was never a time where it was too late to call me (although there is too early) or too far for me not to go. There was a time when we had a problem with that we had way to many campers attending CI then the amount of food we have available. So I was asked to call the campers that turned in their applications late and give them the very bad news that they cannot attend CI that year. What made it difficult was that the day I had to call was Christmas Day. And even though I made the call, I did not stop there, I found a way for those kids to be able to attend anyway. Which for those involved know that was no easy task. But no matter how difficult it was to call these people and ruin their Christmas, it had to be done and someone had to be the bad guy. But that is what leaders do, to make the difficult choices. Paul’s letter to the Corinthians says it best, “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.” I Corinthians 15:58

But what is a leader? In Proverbs 28:16 says, “A ruler (leader) who lacks understanding is a great oppressor, but he who hates covetousness will prolong his rule.” King Solomon was saying that to be an effective leader one must have the patience and be open minded else they will just enforce what they believe to those they lead.

In the past few days I have been receiving e-mails asking me to turn in a questionnaire form to determine where I am with my walk with the Lord. I have always maintained that as Design Team members we must set a bar or standard to which not everyone can just be a counselor. But what is dangerous with setting a bar is who gets to set that bar? Obviously the most logical choice would be the design team to set that bar. But who sets the bar for the design team? Logically shouldn’t the standard set for the Design Team members be higher than that of the Counselor’s and Staff members. My original proposal was that the entire counselor and staff along with the Design Team meet together and set that standards in what they all feel what is the definition of a counselor, staff and of course design team. So each member is heard and that at least at the end of that meeting you all come out with one clear mandate saying this is the bar and this is what we all agreed with. Now I don’t know if that ever happened or not, but if it hasn’t then I urge the counselors and staff and demand to know who sets the DESIGN TEAM’s standards?

I am quoting from the STATEMENT OF COMMITMENT that I received.




If this is required for Counselors and Staff than where is the STATEMENT OF COMMITMENT for the Design Team? Shouldn’t their list be longer?

The first and the last bullet point I cannot answer for those are subjective and only GOD can answer that. But the second and third (which I believe go hand in hand) is something we CAN keep accountable to each other for and definitely something that we are all charged to do. But let me talk about accountability. In Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.”

Oxford American Dictionaries has this to say about countenance.

countenance |ˈkountn-əns|
noun
1 a person's face or facial expression : his impenetrable eyes and inscrutable countenance give little away.
2 support : she was giving her specific countenance to the occasion.
verb [ trans. ]
admit as acceptable or possible : he was reluctant to countenance the use of force.
PHRASES
keep one's countenance maintain one's composure, esp. by refraining from laughter.
keep someone in countenance help someone to remain calm and confident : to keep herself in countenance she opened her notebook.
out of countenance disconcerted or unpleasantly surprised : I put him clean out of countenance just by looking at him

In this definition I want to focus on the key word in this definition. The word: HELP. It isn’t enough to just point to our brothers and sisters in Christ about their shortcomings but how can we HELP? We need to help them remain calm and confident. As per the Lord’s teaching. Sure they may not want to hear it, they may even be apprehensive about it, but it is something the Lord calls us to do. So if indeed we see our brother or sister stumble how do we help them get back up? It is like saying to yourself, hey I’m hungry. But if you don’t do anything about it. Guess what, until you do something about it won’t change. You must do something, else you’ll starve. So those making claims that one is not “Christian” enough then what are you doing to help that person make the cut?

I believe that the design team has many functions and responsibilities. With things like choosing a campsite, creating a functional budget, and putting together a coherent family groups material. We have also the added responsibility in fostering leaders and future leaders. Ralph Nader, political activist and Presidential candidate for the green party said, “The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.” It is often difficult when you find yourself a leader whose responsibility to create more leaders. But it is important especially at CI. The work of the LORD is never done, the battle between the forces of good and evil will continue till the final battle as prophesized by John in the book of Revelations. So it is important that we as design team members think long term, and look down the road to see who can carry the mantle of responsibility. So we must produce more leaders. Such as what Kuya John Umaging did, Ate Grace (Cainoy) Weltman, Ate Marie (Dacio) Pico, Ate Rose Lynn (Abesamis) Bell, Kuya Joey Alberracin, Michelle Quizon. These former Directors knew that one day they will say goodbye to CI but the work must continue. So if we were to make a Statement of Commitment for a design team member shouldn’t fostering the people they lead be an important point?

Now that I have made my point, the issue at hand is whether someone is Christian enough to be a counselor. And yes I do believe that a standard should be set, but it is also important as to who sets the standards. And if we require that of a Counselor than we should demand that from our leaders.

I have known Nicco for most of my life, I have seen him grow not only as a man but as Christian servant. I was also blessed to have had him in my family group and was instrumental in bringing Rosewood UMC’s first Contemporary Worship service. I have seen him be the youth member to being the youth leader to now a youth mentor. He has answered the call of the Lord on numerous occasions and yes he has his faults. But believe me his list of shortcomings isn’t longer than mine. In a time when we are looking for leaders and for people to step up and take charge, we shouldn’t knock down those who are willing to serve, but foster them to be better leaders. For there was at one time that we all and I mean all of us have had a trait that could disqualify us all, and if it weren’t for someone who had enough wisdom to show each and every one of us a little bit of understanding and a little bit of patience than we would have never gotten this opportunity to lead and serve. As someone who has trained counselors through the years I can earnestly tell you that I cannot teach someone to care, nor to love, nor to turn the other cheek. I believe that these are the characteristics we look for in a counselor, and the rest we teach, for these are the traits that the good Lord has told us all. In Matthew 22:37-39“Jesus replied: 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.”

To sum up my point, I urge each and every one of you that those that demand so much of your commitment and sincerity show there heart first. Demand that the standard be higher than that expected of you, and judge the person’s heart.

In HIS Service,

Francis Thomas B. Serrano

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

time to ask

Christmas Institute - Southern California
Design Team Members
Counselor and Staff

Francis Thomas B. Serrano
Former Design Team Member

October 29, 2008

Dear Leadership Team,

As a former Design Team member as well as a Counselor and Staff member. I am compelled to speak on the latest issues that have been going around. And even though I am eight thousand miles away, I am still affected by the things that are happening with the leaderships of Christmas Institute. For one I have invested 15 years into Christmas Institute and have worked very hard like many of you to make CI what it is today. Second, my nephew and niece will be attending CI this year so as a parent I have the right and the responsibility to make sure that the people teaching my nephew and niece are consistent to the values and principles that my family has set. And lastly, it is because I still care deeply for all of you and I know how hard you have worked and things such as these although important should not diminish your contribution and sacrifices you have all made for CI and for Jesus Christ. But like many of you I am moved to say something.

For past few years since when I was still a design team member I was involved with the day to day operations of Christmas Institute, there was not an issue or problem that I ran away from. I was always ready to answer the call of the Lord as well as my fellow design team members. There was never a time where it was too late to call me (although there is too early) or too far for me not to go. There was a time when we had a problem with that we had way to many campers attending CI then the amount of food we have available. So I was asked to call the campers that turned in their applications late and give them the very bad news that they cannot attend CI that year. What made it difficult was that the day I had to call was Christmas Day. And even though I made the call, I did not stop there, I found a way for those kids to be able to attend anyway. Which for those involved know that was no easy task. But no matter how difficult it was to call these people and ruin their Christmas, it had to be done and someone had to be the bad guy. But that is what leaders do, to make the difficult choices. Paul’s letter to the Corinthians says it best, “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.” I Corinthians 15:58

But what is a leader? In Proverbs 28:16 says, “A ruler (leader) who lacks understanding is a great oppressor, but he who hates covetousness will prolong his rule.” King Solomon was saying that to be an effective leader one must have the patience and be open minded else they will just enforce what they believe to those they lead.

In the past few days I have been receiving e-mails asking me to turn in a questionnaire form to determine where I am with my walk with the Lord. I have always maintained that as Design Team members we must set a bar or standard to which not everyone can just be a counselor. But what is dangerous with setting a bar is who gets to set that bar? Obviously the most logical choice would be the design team to set that bar. But who sets the bar for the design team? Logically shouldn’t the standard set for the Design Team members be higher than that of the Counselor’s and Staff members. My original proposal was that the entire counselor and staff along with the Design Team meet together and set that standards in what they all feel what is the definition of a counselor, staff and of course design team. So each member is heard and that at least at the end of that meeting you all come out with one clear mandate saying this is the bar and this is what we all agreed with. Now I don’t know if that ever happened or not, but if it hasn’t then I urge the counselors and staff and demand to know who sets the DESIGN TEAM’s standards?

I am quoting from the STATEMENT OF COMMITMENT that I received.




If this is required for Counselors and Staff than where is the STATEMENT OF COMMITMENT for the Design Team? Shouldn’t their list be longer?

The first and the last bullet point I cannot answer for those are subjective and only GOD can answer that. But the second and third (which I believe go hand in hand) is something we CAN keep accountable to each other for and definitely something that we are all charged to do. But let me talk about accountability. In Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.”

Oxford American Dictionaries has this to say about countenance.

countenance |ˈkountn-əns|
noun
1 a person's face or facial expression : his impenetrable eyes and inscrutable countenance give little away.
2 support : she was giving her specific countenance to the occasion.
verb [ trans. ]
admit as acceptable or possible : he was reluctant to countenance the use of force.
PHRASES
keep one's countenance maintain one's composure, esp. by refraining from laughter.
keep someone in countenance help someone to remain calm and confident : to keep herself in countenance she opened her notebook.
out of countenance disconcerted or unpleasantly surprised : I put him clean out of countenance just by looking at him

In this definition I want to focus on the key word in this definition. The word: HELP. It isn’t enough to just point to our brothers and sisters in Christ about their shortcomings but how can we HELP? We need to help them remain calm and confident. As per the Lord’s teaching. Sure they may not want to hear it, they may even be apprehensive about it, but it is something the Lord calls us to do. So if indeed we see our brother or sister stumble how do we help them get back up? It is like saying to yourself, hey I’m hungry. But if you don’t do anything about it. Guess what, until you do something about it won’t change. You must do something, else you’ll starve. So those making claims that one is not “Christian” enough then what are you doing to help that person make the cut?

I believe that the design team has many functions and responsibilities. With things like choosing a campsite, creating a functional budget, and putting together a coherent family groups material. We have also the added responsibility in fostering leaders and future leaders. Ralph Nader, political activist and Presidential candidate for the green party said, “The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.” It is often difficult when you find yourself a leader whose responsibility to create more leaders. But it is important especially at CI. The work of the LORD is never done, the battle between the forces of good and evil will continue till the final battle as prophesized by John in the book of Revelations. So it is important that we as design team members think long term, and look down the road to see who can carry the mantle of responsibility. So we must produce more leaders. Such as what Kuya John Umaging did, Ate Grace (Cainoy) Weltman, Ate Marie (Dacio) Pico, Ate Rose Lynn (Abesamis) Bell, Kuya Joey Alberracin, Michelle Quizon. These former Directors knew that one day they will say goodbye to CI but the work must continue. So if we were to make a Statement of Commitment for a design team member shouldn’t fostering the people they lead be an important point?

Now that I have made my point, the issue at hand is whether someone is Christian enough to be a counselor. And yes I do believe that a standard should be set, but it is also important as to who sets the standards. And if we require that of a Counselor than we should demand that from our leaders.

I have known Nicco for most of my life, I have seen him grow not only as a man but as Christian servant. I was also blessed to have had him in my family group and was instrumental in bringing Rosewood UMC’s first Contemporary Worship service. I have seen him be the youth member to being the youth leader to now a youth mentor. He has answered the call of the Lord on numerous occasions and yes he has his faults. But believe me his list of shortcomings isn’t longer than mine. In a time when we are looking for leaders and for people to step up and take charge, we shouldn’t knock down those who are willing to serve, but foster them to be better leaders. For there was at one time that we all and I mean all of us have had a trait that could disqualify us all, and if it weren’t for someone who had enough wisdom to show each and every one of us a little bit of understanding and a little bit of patience than we would have never gotten this opportunity to lead and serve. As someone who has trained counselors through the years I can earnestly tell you that I cannot teach someone to care, nor to love, nor to turn the other cheek. I believe that these are the characteristics we look for in a counselor, and the rest we teach, for these are the traits that the good Lord has told us all. In Matthew 22:37-39“Jesus replied: 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.”

To sum up my point, I urge each and every one of you that those that demand so much of your commitment and sincerity show there heart first. Demand that the standard be higher than that expected of you, and judge the person’s heart.

In HIS Service,

Francis Thomas B. Serrano


Thursday, September 18, 2008

Robin Williams on Rolling Stones


I was reading ROLLING STONES special issue on comedians. And Robin Williams shared this one joke which caught me off guard but crazy funny.

"Guy's having sex with his wife. All of a sudden he looks over, and there in the doorway is his son, about eight years old. Kid looks horrified, and the kid runs away. The guy says to his wife, "Well, I'd better talk to Timmy." He puts on his clothes and goes to Timmy's room. He opens the door, and there's Timmy nailing Grandma. The father goes, "Oh my God!" And the kid goes, "Not so funny when it's your mom, is it?"

Thursday, September 11, 2008

sometimes it hurts

So this past weekend I came back to the United States to see my niece get married. For the past few weeks my entire family has been working hard to try and get things ready. The sacrifices we went through, and even though we don't do this for the thank you we also don't do this to be hated. And that's what happened, for all our hardwork, all our sacrifices I was hated in the end.

Lord how do I continue to love while those that say that love me really don't?

Sunday, August 3, 2008

2008 WEKAF Championship a Photo Journal

Hi Guys... Just wanted to share some of the pictures from the event. I also wrote an article about the tournament if you are interested in reading it. ENJOY!!!


A break from the everyday grind of the tournament. While visiting a friend in Cebu, we drove past this old church and I knew that I had to take a picture of this. I look at this old and I see how old the Philippines truly is, and even though we have just gotten our independance less than a century ago, we do have an old culture.



My friend the gentle warrior, Pat will greet you with a smile and a hug but don’t cross him. I’m proud to call him my friend, and am better to have finally met him.


Henry has always been a talented fighter and performer. Definately a double threat. In his devission he had over 10 people vying for the spot of champion and though there were many, their really was no contest. You can see it in Henry’s eyes, so focused and determined to win. And you can also see it from Team Australia and Team Canada.

Alexis: She is such a beautiful young woman, it amazes me how each time I see her, her skills continues to grow. What also amazing is how dedicated her family is to their children's sport. Now she is at the 2008 WEKAF World Championships.


In spite of all the hardships this family has endured, they still take some time to have a little bit of fun. What can I say about this family except that I love them and am glad I got adopted by them.



Wendy is such a capable warrior. True embodiment of grace and beuty while carrying a big stick. I am proud that she represented the United States.






I hope you all like it... Oh and all photos are the sole property of FRANCIS T.B. SERRANO any duplication for any purpose is strictly prohibited.

Saturday, August 2, 2008

i love this girl and here are some reasons why...


I love this girl so much... And for some odd reason she likes me too... And she actually put it down as to why...


kristen


1. Who are you?
kristen belling
2. Are we friends?
yes... but so much more than that...
3. When and how did we meet?
a long long time ago
4. How have I affected you?
you have given me strength, faith, love and protection. you have shown me the meaning of family and helped me understand what it means to be a christian. you have affected me in so many ways, i dont know what my life would be like without you.
5. What do you think of me?
i think you're fresh.
6. What's the fondest memory you have of me?
the family group time sticks out...
7. How long do you think we will be friends?
forever
8. Do you love me?
of course
9. Do you have a crush on me?
hmmm... can we say incest?
10. Would you kiss me?
on the cheek
11. Would you hug me?
all the time
12. Physically, what stands out?
the way you look at me when i'm talking to you lets me know that you're really listening and you really care
13. Emotionally, what stands out?
the way you love people is so strong and unconditional. it takes a big heart to be able to love like that. especially when it comes to family.
14. Do you wish I was cooler
yeah but we can talk about that more later
15. On a scale of 1-10, how hot am I?
hm... im sorry i just cant answer that one
16. Give me a nickname and explain why you picked it.
sorry i'm not very creative
17. Am I loveable?
very
18. How long have you known me?
forever
19. Describe me in one word.

20. What was your first impression?
i dont remember
21. Do you still think that way about me now
yes
22. What do you think my weakness is?

23. Do you think I'll get married?
aren't you married already? from what i remember, there are a lot of Mrs. Serranos out there... and they are all pretty famous too... what a weird coincidence
24. What makes me happy?
the people you love, acting, making people laugh, your faith, good music
25. What makes me sad?
seeing your loved ones unhappy
26. What reminds you of me?
when people ask me how a movie was and i get this urge to tell them that everyone dies at the end... haha
27. If you could give me anything what would it be?
happiness...
28. How well do you know me?
pretty well
29. When's the last time you saw me?
a long time ago
30. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn't?
no. in fact, i tell you a lot of things that i cant tell other people
31. Do you think I could kill someone?
no
32. Have we ever had sex?
no... can we say incest again?
33. Do you miss me?
so much
34. Do you think i miss you?
yes
33. Are you going to put this on your MYSPACE and see what I say about you?
you did it already... thank you!

Thursday, July 31, 2008

2008 WEKAF Championship

2008 WEKAF Championship
By: Master Sonny Napial and Francis T.B. Serrano

Cebu City, Philippines. Filipino Martial Artist (FMA) from all over the world come to this tiny island, some to see the birthplace of Modern FMA such as the DOCE PARES Headquarters, Magellan’s Cross, and of course the famous statue of Lapu Lapu, the first mandirigma (Filipino warrior) to repel the foreign invaders. But today isn’t about learning more, today is about becoming more. To see if all the countless hours of training, the buckets of sweat and tears, and the sacrifices made by their families was all worth it. The ring is set; the time is now, time to be the champ.

Ayala Center Mall located in the heart of Cebu City, the site of this year’s WEKAF (World Eskrima Kali Arnis Federation) Championship. Even though people are cordial you can feel the tension in the air. As each handshake, each hug is nothing more than a façade as they size up each opponent. For the veterans, they know to reveal just enough truth to keep the opponent guessing. While the rookies are in awe as they see the largest collection of Grandmasters and World Champions in one roof. You can see the panic in their eyes, as they look for a familiar face in a sea full strangers.

Having the event at the mall, hundreds if not thousands of on lookers as their curiosity compels them to stop and see what is going on. Unfortunately the local Filipino’s don’t have any idea what they were about to see, which is nothing more than the fast action battle as champions go head to head.

With nearly 30 countries participating, the favorite is Team Philippines. Sports psychologist know that having home court advantage can make the difference as it gives each fighter a sense of pride, and as they welcome teams from other nations in their eyes they convey this single message. “Not in my house.” But they face a very tough competition as Team USA brings the largest contingent of fighters as well as being the country that dominated the gold count from the last tournament.

The matches were intense but often controversy occurred before and after the match, starting with the selections of judges and referees and ending at times with individuals questioning the decisions of the judges. For every match, even though each fighter fought with intensity and heart there is always a winner and a loser and always fans, coaches and competitors who will be disappointed. At several times during the competition, the disappointment was very evident for Team Philippines and their many fans who took the loses to heart.

In the end, WEKAF leadership was always there to ensure the tournament got back on track.
After three and half days of competition the Gold count leader was the United States with over 44 golds as compared to the Philippines 35. But as the event start to calm down, each fighter leaves with fulfillment, disappointment, or wait till next time. As for me I cannot wait for 2010, in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico the site for the next WEKAF championship.